There's no timeline for this. There's only company for the walk.
Grief is what love does when it has nowhere to go. Something or someone is gone, and the world keeps moving as if it hasn't noticed, while inside you the ground has quietly disappeared.
Maybe it's a death, sudden or long expected. Maybe it's a marriage that ended, a diagnosis that rewrote your future, a relationship that fell silent, a version of your life you were sure you'd get to live. Loss wears many faces, and not all of them come with a funeral or a casserole on the doorstep.
You may be waiting to feel the way you think you're supposed to feel, to reach the stage where it lifts. But grief doesn't work on a schedule, and it doesn't move in a straight line. What you need isn't to be fixed or hurried along. What you need is someone to walk beside you while you carry it.
The many shapes of loss
We're taught that grief comes in tidy stages, denial, anger, bargaining, and so on, that end in a place called acceptance. Real grief rarely reads the manual. It comes in waves, out of order, circling back on ordinary Tuesdays. You can be functioning at work and undone by a song in the grocery store an hour later. Both are normal. Both belong.
Some losses go unwitnessed by the people around you, what's sometimes called disenfranchised grief. The end of a relationship no one knew was serious. A miscarriage. An estrangement you can't explain. Grief for someone still living but no longer themselves. When the world doesn't recognize your loss, you can end up mourning in private and doubting whether you have the right to hurt at all. You do.
And grief is not one-size-fits-all across families or cultures. The way you were raised to mourn, what gets spoken and what stays silent, how long is allowed, whether tears belong in public or only behind closed doors, all of it shapes how your sorrow moves. There is no correct way to grieve, only your way, and it deserves room.
How I work with grief
I won't ask you to hurry, and I won't try to talk you out of what you feel. My work is not about helping you get over a loss. It's about helping you carry it, so that over time it takes a shape you can live alongside without abandoning the love underneath it.
Drawing on psychodynamic, attachment, and client-centered work, I make room for the whole of it, the sorrow and the anger, the guilt and the relief that sometimes shocks people, the moments of laughter that feel almost like betrayal. Nothing you feel is off limits here, and nothing about it makes you disloyal or broken.
This is slow, human work, and it happens inside a relationship where you don't have to manage anyone else's discomfort with your grief. As someone who honors how deeply culture and family shape mourning, I'll follow your lead on what this loss means to you, rather than fit you to anyone's expectation of how it should look.
What the work looks like together
We make room for it
The first thing we do is stop rushing. You bring the loss as it actually is, messy, contradictory, larger than words, and we give it the space the rest of the world may not have.
You tell the whole truth
Grief holds more than sadness. Anger, guilt, relief, and love can all live together. Here you can say the parts you've kept quiet, without fear of being judged or corrected.
We honor what it means
Every loss carries its own meaning, shaped by your history, your family, and your culture. We follow the meaning this one holds for you, rather than any standard template of mourning.
You carry it forward
Healing isn't forgetting, and it isn't moving on. Over time, grief settles into something you can carry while still living a full life, staying connected to what you loved.
This may be for you if…
- ✓You're grieving a loss of any kind, a death, a divorce, a diagnosis, an estrangement, a future that won't happen
- ✓You're tired of being told to move on, and want company instead of a timeline
- ✓Your loss feels unseen by the people around you, and you need a place it's taken seriously
- ✓You value a therapist who is warm, patient, and unhurried by your pain
A different kind of support may fit better if…
- ·Your grief has turned into thoughts of not wanting to be here, or of harming yourself. Please reach out for immediate support right now (in the US, call or text 988) and see our crisis resources. You deserve care today, and we can begin grief work once you're safe.
- ·You're looking strictly for medication management (a psychiatrist prescribes; as a psychologist I don't, though I'm glad to coordinate care)
Good things to know
How long does grief last, and how long is therapy?
There's no set timeline, and anyone who gives you one is guessing. Grief softens and changes shape rather than simply ending. Some people come for a season of extra support, others for a longer walk through a complicated loss. We'll go at your pace and revisit what you need as we go.
Can I get help for a loss that isn't a death?
Absolutely. Divorce, estrangement, a hard diagnosis, infertility, the loss of a home or a way of life, the future you thought you'd have, these are real griefs, even when the world doesn't treat them that way. If it mattered to you, it belongs in this room.
Isn't therapy just paying someone to listen?
Being truly listened to is powerful, and it's a real part of the work, but it isn't the whole of it. Together we help you make sense of the loss, hold the feelings that are hard to carry alone, and find a way to stay connected to what you loved while still moving through your life.
Can we work together if I'm outside Los Angeles?
Yes. I see clients via secure telehealth across California, so you don't need to be in LA, only in the state. Many people find that grieving from the comfort of their own space makes it easier to let themselves feel.
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